Using Your Voice is the Catalyst For Change

“I feel like I miss you.”

A phrase I said to David one evening last week.

I was making my way to the bedroom for the night – adorned in my robe with freshly brushed teeth and
a washed face – when I stopped and turned to David – who was relaxing on the couch. I expressed those
6 honest words to him: “I feel like I miss you.”

Without any thought at all, he made his way across the room to hug me.

I softened and hugged him back completely taken by his attentiveness to my feelings.
This turned into a beautiful moment for us.

I began to express how life’s felt busy, and hard, and complex lately. And how focused I’ve been on
several different projects. And how amazing all of it has felt, too! But that I know it’s been the source of
what’s felt like a distance between the two of us.

David simply held space for me to express my feminine emotion. Which was all I really needed in that
moment: to express, to be held, and to be heard.

The next morning, we chose to sleep in and spent more time together than we had in the days prior.
And when I checked my phone, I had received an overnight calendar invitation for “Date Night” – he had
booked a reservation for our favorite restaurant and was taking me out.

A few days later, I said aloud, “I feel closer to you than I’ve ever felt before.” He smiled and agreed.
In the past, I would have remained quiet… and chose not to express my feelings, as not to complain or
not to be a bother. Or, because I didn’t want to experience a similar past hurt when nothing would come
from it.

May this story serve as a reminder that using your voice is the catalyst for change.
You are worthy of being heard. But, your partner cannot read your mind. You must express what lives
within your heart – that is what the feminine brings to a healthy partnership.